Congruence is when your actions are consistent with your inner state and your core values. It involves developing authenticity and emotional honesty.
Horses experience incongruence when a person gives instructions to do a task while having a conflicting thought like, “I bet this won’t work.”
You may have recognized incongruence in a person who smiles with their mouth but not with their eyes or in a boss who says,
“I feel your pain” while quickly slashing your budget.
When someone says they value authenticity, they’re also saying they want congruence, outer choices that match internal realities.
All of our services are built around helping you become a more congruent leader by developing 4 Intuitive Skills.
We have lots of ways for teaching those skills, but horsemanship is our favorite because you'll learn it faster with a horse than without.
And because spending time with a horse is more fun that sitting in a conference room.
Horses experience incongruence when a person gives instructions to do a task while having a conflicting thought like, “I bet this won’t work.”
You may have recognized incongruence in a person who smiles with their mouth but not with their eyes or in a boss who says,
“I feel your pain” while quickly slashing your budget.
When someone says they value authenticity, they’re also saying they want congruence, outer choices that match internal realities.
All of our services are built around helping you become a more congruent leader by developing 4 Intuitive Skills.
We have lots of ways for teaching those skills, but horsemanship is our favorite because you'll learn it faster with a horse than without.
And because spending time with a horse is more fun that sitting in a conference room.
4 Intuitive Skills of Congruent Leaders
Connection
When you’re thinking and working in sync with the horse, you can accomplish your objectives together because he is completely tuned in and responsive to your energy and communication. You’ve seen this kind of connection between a quarterback and receiver or in a surgical team or construction crew where people just seem to know what to do next and how to respond to each other.
Intention
Setting intention is when you are absolutely clear about where you’re taking the horse and how you’ll get there. It involves both having a logical plan and an inner certainty as you execute it. When leaders move along with clarity and confidence, people know what’s expected of them and are empowered to take responsibility for their role in accomplishing the task.
Energy
The way your presence affects how the horse responds to you. It might seem like emotion when you first become aware of it, but it’s really a sensation that’s deeper than emotion. Recognizing and managing your own energy will help you in conversations where people typically report increased anxiety – like attending networking events, confronting unmet expectations with a colleague, or delivering performance reviews.
Pressure
Directing your energy to different areas of the horse to get him to accomplish the goal you’re after. It involves learning how to manage and focus your energy so the horse can understand what you’re asking him to do. When you’re learning to use appropriate pressure, it’s just as important to learn when to release it as when to apply it. You use communication to apply and release pressure with people. Verbally you select particular words for people to both understand and feel what you’re asking of them. Nonverbally, you use all sorts of cues - you may stand at a particular distance, choose whether to touch someone’s shoulder, or decide whether to sustain eye contact.
When you’re thinking and working in sync with the horse, you can accomplish your objectives together because he is completely tuned in and responsive to your energy and communication. You’ve seen this kind of connection between a quarterback and receiver or in a surgical team or construction crew where people just seem to know what to do next and how to respond to each other.
Intention
Setting intention is when you are absolutely clear about where you’re taking the horse and how you’ll get there. It involves both having a logical plan and an inner certainty as you execute it. When leaders move along with clarity and confidence, people know what’s expected of them and are empowered to take responsibility for their role in accomplishing the task.
Energy
The way your presence affects how the horse responds to you. It might seem like emotion when you first become aware of it, but it’s really a sensation that’s deeper than emotion. Recognizing and managing your own energy will help you in conversations where people typically report increased anxiety – like attending networking events, confronting unmet expectations with a colleague, or delivering performance reviews.
Pressure
Directing your energy to different areas of the horse to get him to accomplish the goal you’re after. It involves learning how to manage and focus your energy so the horse can understand what you’re asking him to do. When you’re learning to use appropriate pressure, it’s just as important to learn when to release it as when to apply it. You use communication to apply and release pressure with people. Verbally you select particular words for people to both understand and feel what you’re asking of them. Nonverbally, you use all sorts of cues - you may stand at a particular distance, choose whether to touch someone’s shoulder, or decide whether to sustain eye contact.